A spiritual beginning to 2020


One of my favourite motors to live by is ‘don’t be a prisoner to your past, it was a lesson not a life sentence’ and it’s true, you can’t erase the past, you can’t change it so what is the point on bringing it up, it’s the past move on don’t let it prevent you from moving forward.

Every day brings an opportunity to start fresh, to make changes, and new beginnings! However, there are certain dates in the calendar that enhance the perfect moment for “renewal.” Moon cycles, the beginning of spring season, and new years are a few.

There is something extra special about a new year because it marks the closing of a chapter in our lives. This is the time of year when we reflect on the past year and start making resolutions for the next year. We all hope that the year ahead will be different and better. I think if I go over my timeline on Facebook since I signed up that every new year status went something like this ‘ good bye 20** bring on 20** this is going to be my year’ and with each year that passes you find yourself on the 31/12 saying the exact same thing as the last.


“Now, as we close one chapter, the pen is gradually inking up, preparing itself to write the next.” – Mie Hansson

So as the worst year of my life comes to an end, things are looking positive for the year to come as I will be entering 2020 in my new home after 8 months of homelessness.

As I discovered over the last few years I am drawn to spiritualism and all things spiritual, so as the year draws to end I thought it be different to see what kind of spiritual rituals that are out there for the new year so I came across pages and pages of the same kinda thing so here I have written one myself using the same ideas from others enjoy.


These new year rituals start with cleansing and decluttering physical space to remove negativity. As I’ve just moved into my own place I have made sure that everything has its place, throw away things that no longer serve me anymore. A clean and organised space gives peace of mind, allowing energy to flow and creating space to bring new things in.

I then meditate to cleans my heart and mind of any negative emotions that have weighed me down over the last year. If meditation is not your thing try writing out on a piece of paper and burn it. (please make sure you do this in a save environment and if your under the age of 18 please be supervised by an adult)

Finally, there is a planning phase. This step is a compass because it allows one to set objectives to begin on a new journey.

So let’s begin our new year rituals to usher in the new year with a powerful intention. Below my step by step guide @–@




Follow These 3 Steps for a Powerful New Year Ritual:
Here’s how to perform a simple yet powerful new year ritual to welcome in the new year and manifest whatever it is you seek to bring into 2019.


1. Cleanse Your Physical Space
Have fun with this first step. Play your favorite music and open the windows! Get two big garbage bags – one for “things to donate” and another one for “things to throw away.”

Go ahead and deep clean your whole house, and as you clean every room make a “donation pile” and a “garbage pile.”

This process can be challenging but when you let go of things that no longer serve you and simplify, you’ll open space for new and great things to come into your life!

When you are done cleaning your house, light a white candle. This has been used for centuries as a tool for removing negative energy from space and to mark the final phase of the cleansing process.

Need some help with this one? Get Rid of These 25 Things to Declutter Your Life


2. Clear Your Heart and Mind
Get a few minutes in a quiet place, sit down with a piece of paper and pen, take a few breaths, relax, and start writing everything that needs to get OUT. Release any negative feelings of anger, fear, shame, or sadness onto that paper.

Use the end of your paper to forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness will allow you to cleanse your heart from negative emotions. When you are done, flush or burn the paper as a symbolic way to release all of those negative feelings from your heart and mind.

Let That Sh*t Go! Here’s How to Perform a Burning Ceremony to Let Go and Move On


When you let go of things that no longer serve you and simplify, you’ll open space for new and great things to come into your life.


As an optional step, you can also ask Archangel Raphael, the angel of healing, to assist you with cleansing your heart with his green emerald healing light.

Archangels are very powerful spiritual messengers sent to help you deal with all of those challenges in your life that you can’t seem to conquer.

Simply close your eyes, shift your awareness within and say: “Archangel Raphael, please surround me with your beautiful green healing light. Help me release all negative emotions from my heart and assist me to cleanse my aura and energy centers (AKA the chakras). Thank you, thank you, thank you. And so it is.”




3. Set Your Intentions
Mark the beginning of a brand new cycle by setting new intentions for 2019. Write a list of goals (maybe organize them quarterly), and if you wish, you can add an action plan describing how are you going to reach your goals.

Here is a list of the different areas in your life to help you organize your thoughts:

Physical body/Health
Mind/Intellect/Personal development
Spiritually/Faith
Family/Marriage/Parenthood
Social/Friends
Career/Business/Volunteering
Finances
Environment/Community
Fun/Travel/Hobby


Welcome 2020 With This Cleansing New Year Ritual!
By cleansing your house, your heart and your mind, and setting your intentions, you are preparing yourself for a great new year.

Finally, conclude your ritual by finding gratitude. Being grateful provides you with the opportunity to be thankful for the lessons you’ve learned over the last year and welcome the new and exciting possibilities that await you in the future.

As Mie Hansson said, “Now, as we close one chapter, the pen is gradually inking up, preparing itself to write the next.”

Happy New Year!

We meet people for a reason

6 REASONS WE DON’T MEET PEOPLE BY ACCIDENT. WE MEET FOR A REASON.

As I mentioned in my previous post I believe you don’t meet people by accident. People come into your life for a reason. Even those who wish never existed

If a relationship doesn’t survive the test of time, it doesn’t mean it still wasn’t meant to be.

Not all encounters with people are supposed to last forever. 

Sometimes the “forever” is not the person – but what we gain from them.

There’s a synchronisity and purpose for each person you meet. Both our positive encounters with people and the negative, challenging encounter we suffer through.

Below are some reasons why we don’t meet people by accident.

6 Reasons Why We Don’t Meet People By Accident.

(People Come Into Your Life For A Reason.)

1. Some people are “bridges.”

These people are not meant to last for the long road ahead. They are an enjoyable pathway to get us to where we need to go.

These people are needed to arrive exactly at the time and place you met them – to transport you to the next level of your life journey.

You meet these people for a reason – even if they are only here for a season.

2. Some people are “roadblocks” and “re-directors.”

These people come into your life to delay you – for both little things and big things.

For example, you might have a conversation with someone – which then delays you and prevents you from getting into a bus accident.

Or you might spend time with someone – and this time spent creates a “time hiccup” which delays you – so you wind up meeting a new, amazing, romantic partner.

You might have heard the expression, “Sometimes rejection is a redirection to something better.” Well, that’s what these people do. They might show up as a rejector – but they are a redirector.

3. Some people are “assignments” and “teachers.”

Often your tormentors double duty as your mentors

They are here to teach you important life lessons – via the process of pain – which helps you to grow who you are.

Their “crisis pain” creates the “crisis fuel” you need – to motivate a necessary change you didn’t want to put in the effort to make.

Plus, some people are just straight-up inspiring teachers – who teach you life lessons in a more loving manner.

4. Some people are “angels”

These people are here to protect you and remind you to stay safe and stay self loving.

They are “guardian angels” of some sort.

Their purpose: Make sure that you do not stray too far from the path you are meant to be on.

In times of need and desperation they help you – when others are not there for you.

5. Some people are “guideposts.”

They represent and symbolize something you want.

Their purpose: Motivate you to keep pursuing what you want – and stay on track.

Their presence helps to make sure you stay awake, energized and committed to moving forward on your soul’s true-to-you journey.

6. Some people are your “tribe.”

These are the ones who are here to stay the long haul.

These people are far and few between – but they are the ones who are loyally there for you during tough times and celebratory times.

They see you clearly and accept you as your “flawesome” self.

Tribe members support you when you are invisible to others.

Tribe members root for you with a pure heart – when others might feel competitive or jealous.

A Change of the way my blog will be written

So whilst reading out my pre glossary to George, he sparked an idea on how I should write my blog whilst telling my story. So instead of writing post after post explaining my entire 5 years almost like a diary we thought it would be much more useful to write about the subjects in my pre glossary whilst adding my events as the examples. That way my blog turns into a self help guide as well as a mini biography. So back to one of my previous post on where shall I begin and the decision to start at the beginning has slightly changed, it will start from the beginning and each event I encountered over the last 5 years. To start with I will be publishing posts about the people who were involved in my life, where I met them, what parts of my life they were involved in, and who they were to me. As I said in the ‘legal bit’ post, I have changed their names to protect their identity even tho some I wish to name and shame. But I won’t because even tho they may of played the negative part in my life there are positives that came with it and without that I would not be able to write this blog. ‘everyone we meet in our lives plays a role, they come with a lesson we need to learn we do not meet people by mistake they enter at the exact time we need them

Pre glossary

I know normally a glossary comes at the end of a book, but as I’ve had some questions about certain things I’m writing about I thought I’d give you guys just a quick list of keywords and subjects that I’ll be writing about, so when you come across it you won’t be confused. I may add more through out my blog.

1. Narcissist : Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.

2. Gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.

3. PTSD: Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events. Someone with PTSD often relives the traumatic event through nightmares and flashbacks, and may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt.

4: Twin Flame :A twin flame is a single soul that was split in two at the beginning of eternity. When the twin souls unite it is for the completion of Oneness and usually when there is a greater mission to get out there to the world. It’s a truly beautiful concept, but one that leaves many people puzzled and confused.

5: False Twin Flame :A false twin flame will be the very beginning of your awakening process. They’ll reveal to you old wounds, patterns and habits that are really holding you back. Your true twin flame will not so much show you your leftover pain as they will help you see what it would take to live a completely aligned and abundant life

6: Empath: Empaths are highly sensitive individuals, who have a keen ability to sense what people around them are thinking and feeling. Psychologists may use the term empath to describe a person that experiences a great deal of empathy, often to the point of taking on the pain of others at their own expense.

7: Angel Numbers: Angel numbers are sequences of numbers that carry divine guidance by referring to specific numerological meanings. In Numerology, the divine science of numbers, it is understood that each number carries with it a specific vibrational meaning that goes beyond a simple quantity.

8: Anxiety Disorder: Anxiety disorders are a group of mental disorders characterized by significant feelings of anxiety and fear. Anxiety is a worry about future events, and fear is a reaction to current events. These feelings may cause physical symptoms, such as a fast heart rate and shakiness

9: Panic disorder: Panic disorder is an anxiety disorder where you regularly have sudden attacks of panic or fear. Everyone experiences feelings of anxiety and panic at certain times. It’s a natural response to stressful or dangerous situations

10: Borderline Personality disorder: Borderline personal disorder is an illness marked by an ongoing pattern of varying moods, self-image, and behavior. These symptoms often result in impulsive actions and problems in relationships with other people

11: Soul mate: “A soulmate is someone that just gets you. It’s a connection of minds, a mutual respect, an unconditional love and a total understanding. It’s about being yourself and knowing, not only that person is following and understanding your thoughts, but is right there with you, side by side. HE or she isn’t necessarily your love interest, they could just be a friend. A SOUL MATE IS OUR SOULS RECOGNISING ANOTHER SOUL FROM A PAST LIFE.

12: Life partner:  A life partner is a companion whom you trust and depend on during your life.

13: C-PTSD: Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) also known as Developmental Trauma Disorder is a psychological injury that results from protracted exposure to prolonged social and/or interpersonal trauma in the context of either captivity or entrapment (a situation lacking a viable escape route for the victim), which results in the lack or loss of control, helplessness, and deformations of identity and sense of self .”

14: Catfishing: Catfishing is a type of deceptive activity where a person creates a sockpuppet social networking presence, or fake identity on a social network account, usually targeting a specific victim for abuse, deception or fraud. Catfishing is often employed for romance scams on dating websites.

Where to begin

MERRRRRRYYYYYY Christmas to you lovely lovely people. So as its been awhile since I last blogged and I can confidently say that the reasons to my weeks of silence will definitely be spoken about in this blog. Whilst I’ve been away, I’ve been pondering on where I should take this journey next? Do I start right from the beginning 17/03/2014 or do I publish a brief introduction on the people who you will read about in this blog, and then start from day one. Such a hard decision! Especially because there is so much I want to write about, the events that completely changed my entire life and how I coped. So my dear dear readers please pop a comment in the box and help me decide where to start. Xo